COVID-19 Day 264 - Crappy Mom and Wife Rant

Some days I feel like a really crappy mom.  I had a stressful day at work between regular work stuff, kids not returning books and COVID stuff, the staff thinking it's okay/a good idea to have a staff Christmas gathering and food so everyone can unmask.  I had a headache coming home, which I tried to voice to my children who kept interrupting.  All they wanted to do was tell me about school and their days and their books, but I resented being interupted 4 times in a row, when all I wanted to say was that I had a headache.  I eventually got a word in edgewise and told them about my headache and that I was going to take a bath and rest for a bit when I got home.  I started running my bath and got undressed, was just looking for the perfect facial mask and bath bomb when I heard the outdoor water spigot turn on.  There's no reason it should be on in December.  So I frantically grabbed my robe, cursing past Jen for not threading the belt through the belt loops as it fell to the floor.  I threw it on and was working on wrapping the belt around me so I wouldn't expose myself to the neighbors when I went outside to turn the water off, when I heard Connor screaming.  I rush into the kitchen and quickly ask if he's hurt. (Backstory: He smashed his hand in his closet door yesterday and went outside screaming while Michael was on the roof hanging lights.  Michael called me, but I couldn't hear him in my brand new phone.  So Michael came down to deal with Connor.  When I came upstairs a few minutes later to hear from Michael what had happened, I asked Connor if he knew where I was.  I was downstairs wrapping presents.  He said he did, but he didn't want to see the presents.  So he went outside to Michael, screaming.)  He said he wasn't hurt and I asked what was wrong.  Anyone who knows my kid knows he's not cool under pressure and he himmed and hawed and sputtered a few things about watering the dogs.  My sweet boy was trying to give the dogs water, using the outdoor spigot.  We'll, since the hose wasn't on, it gushed water everywhere and he got wet, thus the screaming.  Then, when he tried to turn it off, it continued to fish, this the frantic screaming.  I rushed outside to the spigot, sure enough, nice and tightly shut off, still gushing water.  Not dripping or trickling, gushing like full blast.  I turned it the other way to make sure I was turning it the correct direction, more intense gushing.  I played with it back and forth, eventually pushing it in and pulling it out away from the house before I finally got it off.  Something is always broken around here.  Connor has run to hide by the time I get back inside because I frantically asked why he was turning on the hose in December.  (Another backstory: We had 3 months of insanely high water bills, higher than our normal watering/summer bills.  Turns out, the hose was on the spigot, and although to was turned to the off position, it was still running.  But since the hose was on, we couldn't see what was happening.)  So I called for Connor and told him, in not a nice voice, that he was fine and the water was fine.  I told him not to use the hose anymore.  I told him the only place to get water for the dogs was the kitchen sink.  And I stormed back to the backroom where my water was still running.  (Want to know why he didn't use the sink in the first place?  It was full of dishes.  Another backstory: Much as I try, I cannot do everything around the house that needs done.  Fortunately, I'm not the only one in this home helping out.  Michael and I came to an agreement quite a while ago that he would unload the dishwasher and I would loaf it and hand wash any dishes that needed hand washed and put them away myself.  So sometimes I'm pretty, and even though I'm perfectly capable of unloading the dishwasher myself, I don't, because we agreed that he would do that job.)  So back to me being a crappy mom, now add crappy wife to the resume.  (More backstory: Michael came home early yesterday because one of his packages, my Christmas presents, had been delivered and he didn't want me to bring in the box.  He's been going into work early and staying late to finish a project and get a bonus to help pay for Christmas and our trip to Disney.  When he got home early, I asked if he would put the Christmas lights up on the house.  Because even though I'd been asking since the beautiful days of October, it hadn't gotten done.  So, if you subtract out the time he came down off the roof to deal with Connor, he was up on the roof for about 3 hours, 415ish to 730ish.  The wind wasn't blowing, but it was plenty chilly, especially when the sun went down.)  All that to say, the dishes didn't get unloaded last night.  Crappy wife, right here.  So Connor tried to use the outside water to water the dogs, because the sink was full.  I finally make it back to the bathroom and Michael gets home, hears the bath running, thinks, "Oh no!  What's wrong?  I'll go check on Jen." And comes into the bathroom.  So before I can get in I get to explain why I'm in such a bad mood.  I verbally diarrhea all over him in an unkind tone and then half-heartedly apologize afterwards, turning the water off so it doesn't overflow because I've completely filled my garden tub in all this time.  (Want to know another reason I'm mad, that I haven't mentioned yet?  Remember when Michael called me becauae Connor was screaming, and I couldn't hear him?  I thought it was bad reception in the basement, turns out, my new phone isn't working already!  Michael tried to fix it last night.  It seems to think I have headphones plugged in all the time, so all calls, notifications, texts, and audio is going through those imaginary headphones.  I noticed yesterday.  It was working when I got it in the mail.  Well done on this one, Google.)  Michael slowly backs away and leaves and I finally get in.  The warm water feels good after being outside with nothing but my robe on and walking through icey water.  I settled on a facial mask and a couple bath bombs and finally got into my bath.  So now I'm sitting here in coral water, ranting on my blog.  Some days I'm a really crappy mom and wife.  I'd go to bed early, but we have all of our advent calendars that start tonight, so now I resent December and our holiday traditions too.  I suck.  I hope tomorrow is better.  I'm over 2020.

COVID-19 Day 263 - November 19 - I'm thankful for our home.

November 19 - I'm thankful for our home. 🏡 Michael and I moved to Wichita after he got out of school. We had a great little 2 bedroom apartment that we loved! But we knew we wanted to stay in Wichita for a while, and we were tired of wasting money on rent. Our lease lasted until the end of May, so we weren't seriously looking until spring. However, we found out Avery was on the way at the end of January and, 7 days later, put an offer in our home. 😊 We moved in at the end of March. We've been in our home for 8.5 years now. In that time we've added a fence to the backyard, planted a tree, repainted a couple rooms inside and the entire outside, repainted both back decks, and added a garden. Some parts of home ownership stink, like when all the random little appliances go out at the same time, the AC quits in August the day before school starts ( Brian and Alli came to our rescue then, right before Avery started Kindergarten), the garage door stops working, or the hot water heater needs replaced. But we love love love our home. It's where we brought our babies home after they were born. It's been a temporary home for many friends and remains available for any who want to visit. It's a safe haven in times of trouble and uncertainty. On cool days I'm reminded just what a huge blessing it is to have a home to keep my family and me protected and warm. When I hear my kiddos in the backyard playing, I'm reminded what a blessing it is to have a yard where my kids can play safely. When our friends and family come over to visit I'm thankful we chose a place near to our tribe, and that we were lucky enough of have others move to our town and be nearby that we could invite them over and in ( TJ Lohrbach, Meredith May, Phil Zee, Nate McGraw, Michael Marietta, Beth Ashby, Rhythem Fitzpatrick). I'm so thankful for our home and the millions of wonderful memories made here. I look forward to many more. ❤️

COVID-19 Day 263 - November 18 - I'm thankful for the fall!

November 18 - I am thankful for the fall! This is my absolute favorite time of year! I love the clothes and the weather, the sports and the food, the colors and the holidays! My absolute favorite is October 1st-January 1st (I know that covers a little of winter too). My home is nice and cool when I wake up, I throw on a hoodie and some leggings and just want to snuggle in the couch by the fire and read a book! ❤️🍁🍂❤️

COVID-19 Day 263 - November 17 - I'm thankful for Connor!

November 17 - I am thankful for Connor. 💙 My sweet little boy is our rainbow baby. I didn't know what to expect with a little boy, as I have a sister and the only boy I spent much time around was a handsome violin player I met in college. 😉 He has brought so much joy to our lives! He is so much like Michael it's crazy! He's shy in new situations (although his teachers have been saying differently the last couple years), he loves to snuggle and be held (doesn't seem to care that he's 4'3"), he's silly and goofy when playing with his sister, cousins, and friends, he loves video games, pokémon, and animals. Connor is hard-working and meticulous on his projects, wanting everything to be perfect. He's a kind friend and a great helper. Connor is such a special kid! We are so proud of him! It is quite the treat to get to be his mom. I didn't know what I was in store for when I found out we were pregnant with a little boy 7 years ago; but boy, oh boy, am I glad we got him! Love you, Bubba! 💙

COVID-19 Day 263 - November 16 - I'm thankful I have gotten to travel in my life!

November 16 - I am thankful I have gotten to travel in my life.  ❤🗺✈🧳🚗🏖🏞  I love traveling and seeing new places!  I love going on vacations and doing all the things (much to my introverted husband's chagrin).  😉  As a kid we were fortunate enough to go on several vacations around the Midwest, annual trips to Dallas, TX, and annual trips to Manhattan, KS, and OKC for softball tournaments.  I loved staying in hotels, seeing new cities, and eating out!  In college my world expanded even farther with trips to Mexico 🇲🇽 and Cameroon 🇨🇲 (with a layover in Paris 🗼❤🇫🇷).  After Michael and I got married we had little to no money to travel very far.  We made annual trips to Iowa for Tugfest and to see family, which I loved and looked forward to every year.  Once we saved enough to go on a cruise, but ended up using the money for a washer and dryer instead (which are still going strong 9 years later, so that was probably a good call).  When Connor was one, we saved up enough again and went to Mexico to an all-inclusive resort.  It. Was. Amazing!  We enjoyed the beach and food and a week of relaxing away from our small children (though we did miss them terribly).  Since then, big international trips haven't really been in the budget, but that hasn't stopped us from traveling.  😊🚗  We began our map and our quest to visit all 50 states by the time the kids got out of high school, right after Connor was born.  We have checked 15 states off our list in his 6 years.  It has been A BLAST sharing my love for travel with my kiddos!  Each year and each trip just gets more and more fun!  I'm not sure when Michael and I will be able to go back to Paris together or do any other international trip, for that matter, but I'm thankful for what we have done and all the places we've been.  I look forward to all our future travel!  #VossVaca

COVID-19 Day 263 - November 15 - I'm thankful to be an aunt. ❤️

November 15 - I am thankful to be an aunt.  ❤  I love my kiddos, and raising them has been almost always a delight (or at least it seems that way looking back over the years, the hard stuff tends to melt away).  But there is something very special and fun about being an aunt!  😊  You get to spoil and do some of the fun stuff mom and dad can't maintain on a regular basis, you get to plant the occasional bad idea (but not too bad) to annoy your sister or in-laws just a smidgen and be ornery, and you get those fantastic baby snuggles without the sleepless nights and years of diapers.  I just love it!  We don't hear it much anymore, but a few years ago people would still ask Michael and me if we wanted more kids.  I teased that ours slept through the night and were potty trained and that we were never going back!  So thank you to my sister, brothers-in-law, and sister-in-law for your amazing kiddos and for letting me be a part of their lives.  ❤  I love being an aunt!

COVID-19 Day 249 - November 14 - I'm thankful that my kiddos love to read!

November 14 - I am thankful that my kiddos love to read!  ❤📚  As 1st and 2nd graders, they're really just getting into the meat of understanding how to read, but something really clicked this year.  I don't know if my new job had anything thing to do with it, but they have been just eating books up this year!  Before and after school they find books in the library to read while I finish working.  In the car they always have books on hand to read, or they ask to listen to our current Harry Potter audiobook.  They have both been caught staying up late to read, one time they were reading to each other (needless to say, a pass was given for staying up past bedtime...  🤷🏼‍♀️)  I am incredibly proud of them!  Each day they have to read for 30 minutes.  A year ago that was a battle, but most days now, they've gotten a bunch of reading done without ever being asked to do it.  Avery's Christmas list is mostly books!  😳  As a kid who struggled with reading, comprehension, fluency, and reading for pleasure, I could not be more thrilled that my babies, despite being young, already love to read.  I know this will pay off for them in big ways as they grow!  ❤

COVID-19 Day 249 - November 13 - I'm thankful that we live near my sister and her family!

November 13 - I'm thankful that we live near my sister and her family.  ❤  This weekend we're playing host to 2 extra kids, 2 extra dogs, and a cat (unfortunately the lizard and snake are staying home for the weekend).  Avery, Connor, Dayton, and Delaney grew up as basically siblings for the first 6 years.  I started babysitting Dayton when he was 9 months old and Avery was 3 months old.  When they were 25 months and 19 months, we added Connor to the mix.  16 months later we added Delaney.  I began watching Delaney when she was about 6 weeks old.  At that time I had a 6 week old, an 18 month old, a 3 year old, and a 4 year old!  😳  Many days were rough and exhausting with so many littles, but I'm so glad these 4 got so much time together.  ❤  Since we all live so close, we're often over at each other's houses for movie marathons, Fantasy Football drafts, New Years, Halloween, Christmas dinner, fondue parties, fire pits, sleepovers, and so much more.  Sis is my go-to to watch our animals when we go out of town, and this weekend we return the favor.  Our kids have been excited all week for their cousin sleepover this weekend!  It is such a blessing to be close to family and to have cousins who are so close they could be siblings!  Say a little prayer for Michael and me this weekend!  😉  We're going to have a full house!!  👨‍👩‍👧‍👦🐕🐺🦔👦👧🐩🐄🐱

I wrote this before the weekend, obviously, just not good at getting them posted daily to the blog.  Our weekend went pretty well.  The kids were great!  The best they've ever been.  The dogs were the trouble this time.  However, after an accident out of Stormy and one out of Waffles, they spent most of the rest of the weekend in the backyard, which is good for them anyway, so no problem.  Huge props to Michael for scrubbing the outside couch cushions and throw pillows after Waffles pooped on the upper deck, smooshed pillows in the pile of diarea, stepped in it, and tracked it all over the deck and outside couch.  😡  I was not a happy camper.  The good news is, I no longer have any sort of puppy fever!  😒  Overall, the weekend went very well.  😊

COVID-19 Day 249 - November 12 - I'm thankful for our puppies!

November 12 - I am thankful for our puppies, Harlee and Gabby.  They have been a part of our family for 10 and 9 years.  We intentionally got them before the kids so we could train them how to behave around little ones.  Harlee, our Beagle, is smart, sneaky, and stubborn.  I liken her to a cat, because she doesn't come when called, only when she wants something from you.  She is highly motivated by food and training her was very easy.  She's getting a little rounder these days, as we all tend to do as we age, but she'll still roll her fat behind over if you've got a treat for her.  However, she needs visual or olfactory confirmation that you do indeed have a treat.  She will not be fooled into performing.  Gabby, our Pointer Mutt, came from the Humane Society here in Wichita when she was a puppy.  She was found on the street and definitely bares the markings of a mixed breed dog.  She is dumber than a bag of rocks, but she is sweet.  She is jealous of attention and always under foot.  She's getting a little crotchety as she gets older, as many of us do.  The kids have to be a little more careful with her and can't rough house as much with her.  We love both of our fur babies so much and are thankful they are a part of our family!  ❤🐕🐺

COVID -19 Day 249 - November 11 - I'm thankful for Veterans

November 11 - I am thankful for Veterans and their families.  Thank you for your service to our country and for protecting the freedoms that we all seem to take for granted from one time to another.  You all are made from much stronger stuff than I am.  I am grateful for your service and your sacrifices.  Thank you.  🇺🇸  Happy Veteran's Day!

COVID-19 Day 249 - November 10 - I'm thankful for our photographer!

November 10 - I am thankful for our photographer, Courtney Unruh!!!  ❤📷  Over the last 8 years, Courtney has done nearly 20 different sessions for us.  It all started with a maternity session back in 2012 when I was pregnant with Avery.  Since then she's also taken newborn photos, 1 year old photos, family photos, another maternity session, a birth session, another newborn session, another 1 year old session, more family photos, back to school photos a couple times, more family photos, an extended family session, and more family photos!  ❤  She is the greatest!  I never would have guessed I would gain such a wonderful friend when I asked her to take those maternity photos over 8 years ago.  Many times when the kids were young and uncooperative, I worried that our sessions had gone badly and fretted over what kind of pictures we'd get back a few weeks later.  But Courtney always works her magic and they turn out sensational!  If there is one piece of advice as can give to couples/families it is to find yourself a great photographer and spend the money on the pictures.  At the beginning of our time together, I worried about the money, as we were young with a house payment and a baby on the way, and didn't have a lot.  But when I see the pictures in the end, I have never for a second regretted any of the money we've spent.  Thank you, Courtney, for capturing these memories and so many more!  We love you and are grateful you are a part of our lives!  ❤❤❤

COVID-19 Day 245 - November 9 - I'm thankful I live in Wichita!

 November 9 - I'm thankful I live in Wichita!

Michael

and I moved here 9 years ago to be closer to family and to find Michael an engineering job. We took pictures of all of our favorite spots in Manhattan before we left, because we knew we were going to miss it so much. Since we've arrived here we've bought a house, had 2 babies, had 10 different jobs between the two of us, and 4 different roommates. It has been a busy 9 years! When we first arrived, I looked on Google and Yelp and various food blogs to create a list of must-try restaurants. The last 2 years I've participated in the #BuyICT challenges. We've found our favorite spots all over town...

Breakfast - Dempsey's Biscuit and Homegrown

Coffee - Reverie

Burgers - Dempsey's Burger

Pizza - Picasso's, Ziggy's, and Piatto

Tacos - Taco Locale

Lunch - The Kitchen

Dinner - George's

Chocolate - Cocoa Dolce

Candy Store - The Nifty Nuthouse

Auto Shop - Yost

ICT Swag Stores - The Workroom and Lucinda's

Lawn and Garden Supplies - Valley Feed and Seed

Liquor Store - Groves

Farmer's Market - Old Town Farm and Art

Brewery - CSB and Norton's

Escape Room - The Room

Family Time Locations - The Sedgwick County Zoo, Exploration Place, and The Keeper of the Plains

And so many other places... I love the Douglas Design District and the beautiful murals all over. We've had so much fun just walking around looking for all the different murals and taking pictures! I love all of the community events! We had a great time at ICT Open Streets as well as RiverFlix and RiverFest. I'm wearing my Wichita flag shirt right now, and love seeing it and The Keeper of the Plains statues all over town. I love watching shows from MTW and can't wait for them to return. I love that IBA and Wichita have been chosen to host the NCAA tournament several times and I love the atmosphere that tourney, as well as TBT brought to our city. Wichita is a fabulous place to live! I love it so much here! Michael and I still intend to end up in Manhattan or right outside it to build our dream home, but I know there will be a a wall full of pictures in that home of all of our favorite Wichita spots, because this place truly feels like home.

COVID 19 Day 242 - November 8 - I'm thankful for quiet, peaceful mornings.

November 8 - I'm thankful for quiet peaceful mornings. Many mornings I opt for the extra sleep and don't force my body out of bed when the alarm goes off, but when I do, I'm glad I did. When I'm up early I have quiet time to myself to drink my coffee and wake up before I'm waking the kids up, fixing everyone's lunches and breakfasts, reminding them to brush their teeth and get everything ready for school, cleaning up from breakfast, packing school snacks and folders, etc... It starts my day off in a much better way to have some time to focus on myself and wake up before I have to interact with other, lol! Last year I focused all of October and November (and I think some of December until I finally fell off the wagon) on getting up an hour early each day and writing down 5 things I was thankful for each day. It really put things into good perspective. Perhaps I should revisit that challenge. But, for now, I'm thankful for quiet mornings, hot coffee, and not being a grouchy mom. ;)

Generally, I think back on the day before and write about something from that day that I was thankful for.  However, I've had such a nice morning drinking my coffee and blogging, that this is what I choose to be thankful for this morning.  Of course, there was lots to be thankful for yesterday as well...  I'm thankful for Sundays in Towanda, for family time, for good food, for football, for a Chiefs victory, for warm weather, for the kids playing together so nicely, for glowsticks in the dark and running around the back yard after bedtime, for bedtime snuggles, for the kids loving each other so much that they want to sleep in the same room, for Lily, for Avery showing such great responsibility in caring for her, for the kindness of my children, for our soft, cozy bed, for dozing off to tv show reruns...  There is always so much to be thankful for, isn't there?  <3

COVID-19 Day 242 - November 7 - I'm thankful for quiet days at home

November 7 - I'm thankful for quiet days with my family. There have been plenty of negatives to come out of 2020, but I have to admit, I have enjoyed the more open schedule the last several months. I'm no longer booking some activity every night of the week for our family. We have more time to spend together and are not constantly running from one place to another. I love that. I enjoy going out, don't get me wrong! As an extrovert, I love activities out and about! But I can certainly appreciate what my introverted hubby sees in all this quiet home time.

On Saturday we spent most of the day at home, just relaxing. The kids played on their tablets and in the back yard. Michael and I watched news coverage of Biden being the projected winner of the election. It was just a nice, calm day. At the end, we went to the Old Tokyo Steakhouse to celebrate Avery's birthday. Obviously, we celebrated in October as well, however, on the night that the 4 of us went out to dinner on her choice, she picked Red Robin because she wanted to go to a Hibachi place with Grandma Marsha and Papa. Then, when they took her out, they weren't sure about the social distancing, or the place on the east side was still closed or something, and they didn't end up going to one. I told her we'd make it up to her and then I kind of forgot about it. But Saturday I remembered and we were able to go. We had a delicious dinner and they were running a special so that the fried rice was free ($12 savings), the soda was free ($7 savings), and you got 20% off your bill ($15 savings). So we saved a whopping $34!!! It was awesome!! Then we came back home and played a game online with Sis and Adam. It was a nice quiet day, and I loved it. If there's one good thing to come out of this pandemic, it's that I never want to get our schedule as full as it was before COVID hit, ever again.

COVID 19 Day 242 - November 6 - I am thankful for my mom and for her health!

 November 6 - I am thankful for my mom and that she is healthy! It's been over a year since she was in the hospital and almost a year since she had open heart surgery. Last year was such a scary time. I had a tremendous support system who loved on me and my family, helped take care of the kids, brought meals, worked extra hard so Michael and I could miss work, and checked on our mental health while I spent hours, days, and weeks at the hospital being part of her support system. In the year that's followed her surgery, the world has certainly struggled, but I am so incredibly thankful for God's timing, and that she got sick when she did, months before COVID-19 came to the United States. We were able to be at her side nearly every waking hour last year. Her team of doctors, at least a half dozen of them, were extremely attentive and dedicated to finding out what was going on with her and to making her better. That would not have been possible 6 months later. So, although the situation was terrifying and uncertain, God's timing was so so perfect!

Since then, she has healed and gotten strong again. She's been able to get off nearly all of the medications she was on. And, while adhering to COVID restrictions, she is living a normal life again! She and I even met

Stephanie

for lunch and went shopping for Christmas gifts yesterday. I love her so very much, and in November especially, I'm reminded of how thankful I am to have her in my life and now, a year later, how thankful I am that she is healthy once again!

I didn't want to share too much of the nitty gritty on Facebook of just what all was happening a year ago.  How Mama was in the ICU 3 different times, the last of which lasted over 2 weeks.  I didn't mention how the doctors really never completely figured out what was going on or what caused her to get sick.  I didn't mention how the surgery resulted in a new heart valve and a pacemaker.  It's better to keep things light on FB.  Last year was a truly scary time.  We all put on brave faces, but it was difficult on all of us.  All of that makes me so much more thankful that Mama has come so far and recovered so well in the past year.  Honestly, if you didn't know what had happened a year ago, you'd never know by looking at her just how sick she'd been.  She's come so far, recovered so well, and as much as they can be, things are back to normal.  I think this month and this holiday season, this one right here is what I am the absolute most thankful for.  I'm thankful that God guided us through that dark season.  I'm glad it's behind us.  I'm glad Mama is so much better.  Love you, Mama!  ❤

COVID 19 Day 242 - November 5 - I am thankful for my job in the library!

 November 5 - I am thankful for my new job in the Sunflower Elementary Library! It has been a joy and a privilege to work at Sunflower that last 2+ years. I enjoyed most of my time as a para and loved getting to know a few students very well as I worked with them multiple years. I don't get to know those select kids as well anymore, but I do get to see every kid in the school now, and that's so much fun! I'm still struggling to learn all of their names, as I can only see half of their faces, and only have them in the library for 30-60 minutes per week, but I am sure trying!

I couldn't ask for a better teammate in

Karla

! She is fun, hopeful, motivated, a visionary, a team player, an advocate for our students, progressive, a lifelong learner, diligent, a problem solver, and an extremely hard worker! She put so much work into making the library a great place for our students. It is a true joy working with her. This new job has changed my at work days and hours as well. Instead of 5 days a week, I'm only working 3 days a week now. While it took a little while to get used to not going to work each day, it's really been a nice blessing. Now I get to work for 3 days, have 2 quiet days to myself, and then have the weekend with

Michael

and the kids. It's been working out really well and I'm loving the new balance. I sort of fell into this job this year, hoping to move into it eventually, but never dreaming it would happen so soon. I love Sunflower, the staff, the students, the environment. I'm grateful to be working there and I'm so thankful for this new position in the library, which I love so so much!

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COVID-19 Day 242 - November 4 - I am thankful for Michael's safe, stable job.

November 4 - I'm thankful for Michael's job at a safe, stable, and respectful company in the aerospace industry. I've always known the aerospace industry was fickle, so I knew when we came to Wichita that the job market may be up and down for him here. However, I wanted to be close to my family, and aerospace is the best market for a Mechanical Engineer in Wichita. While his lack of experience was a problem the first couple years, he eventually made it to AeTR after a tremendous assist by Uncle Ed when we were in a really difficult spot. Since then, things have not always been easy, but the job has been stable. It breaks my heart when I read about Spirit, Hawker, Boeing, Textron, or Beechcraft laying off massive amounts of workers, with no regard for the people, their situations, the time of year, the financial climate, their years of service, or the situation the world finds itself in. I always stop and pray for those families, because I know that if Michael hadn't found his way to AeTR, it could have been him on the chopping block. But his company is different, small, stable. The people there care about their employees and they have taken care of us. We haven't had to worry day to day, month to month, or year to year if he'll have a job or not. I'm certain he could be making more elsewhere, but the job security is worth so much more than a few extra dollars a year. I am so thankful for this job and for Uncle Ed for laying the foundation for Michael to be able to get it. Having a steady job can bring calm to many a storm. He's been there for almost 8.5 years now, and I anticipate many more to come.

What I didn't add on Facebook is that I'm irritated with his company because he was supposed to get a raise at the beginning of June and it's been 5 months and we still haven't seen that raise. Of course, like I said in my FB post, the job security is worth it. But it's not because they don't have the money... It's because the boss is dragging his feet. The good news is that the company wants some equivalencies done in a hurry so they can stop losing money on this piece of equipment they're fixing for people. So, in order to get that done in a hurry, they are incentivizing the engineers to come in early, stay late, and work extra quickly on these parts, with a bonus. There are 50 parts they need to get completed and they have 3 engineers working on them. Michael thinks they'll be done in about a month. So that will be really nice to get a bonus right before Christmas. We'll see how things go. So far, Michael is mostly going in early and just staying a little late. He typically leaves the house before 6am. Before the bonus was on the table, sometimes he wouldn't leave the house until 7:30am (although he preferred to leave closer to 7). Anyway, that's what's going on. Michael also asked his boss for his raise and asked for a specific amount. But the way he asked was by going into his office, closing the door and saying, "Hey, do you have a minute to talk?" I'm sure the boss got a little nervous, as Michael is one of their best engineers and makes a ton of money for the company in the work that he does. So Michael himmed and hawed a bit and then finally said how much he wanted. The boss said he'd see what he could do. Michael thinks that raises can't happen at this time because the company is not having a good season. However, he thinks that the bonus is the boss's way of making up for it until this project is done, the company financials start looking better, and maybe the raise can come in January or so. Who know? We'll see. The good news is, that he has a good, stable job in a time when job security is very low for many mechanical engineers in Wichita. So for that, I am thankful. :)

COVID-19 Day 237 - November 3 - I'm Thankful for the Right to Vote

 November 3 - I am thankful for the right to vote and make my voice heard on who will lead and represent my interests in the large stage of our government. I know this is a privilege that many around the world do not have. I am thankful for the kind, open, and genuine conversations I've had leading up to this day. I'm thankful for the people who have different opinions without being smug, self righteous, condescending, or aggressive. I am thankful that each and every vote will be counted and that all voices will have a chance to be heard. I'm thankful this season is almost over, because it's been hard. I am thankful that my hope doesn't reside in a man in a white house, but in a Father on a throne. Whatever the results, this too shall pass. I'm thankful for my right to vote. I exercised that right and I'm proud of that.

It's not over.  Every vote will be counted.  The gaps are getting smaller.  I remain hopeful.

COVID-19 Day 237 - November 2 - I'm Thankful for Avery

 November 2 - I'm thankful for my sweet baby girl and so proud of her! A little over 8 years ago, Miss Avery Rose made me a mom. Our girl is kind and spunky, thoughtful and silly, hard-working and understanding, persistent and fierce. We love her so very much! We are also incredibly proud of the young lady she is becoming and of her hard work in school. The most recent example, obviously, being her Happy Hedgehog pumpkin. When we brainstormed what she might like to do for her project, she originally thought of DogMan. But then Mrs. Skibba found the book, The Happy Hedgehog, in the library and set it aside for her,, knowing she'd enjoy a story about a hedgehog after getting one for her birthday. After reading the story,, she was determined to make a hedgehog pumpkin. We discussed a plan and how she might accomplish just that. Then, over the next couple of weeks, she spent her spare time adding layers of paint, poking in several hundred toothpicks, and creating "Fuzzy Friends" from pom poms and googly eyes when she realized we'd have left over supplies. As I have already completed 2nd grade, I wasn't going to do her project for her. It's a hard line I draw in the sand when it comes to my children's school projects, even if they are done at home. I handled the hot glue gun, to keep her safe, and the rest of the work was her own. I love our sweet girl, her vision, and her work ethic. It is almost always a joy being her mother, because our girl exudes joy constantly. I tell Michael it really should have been her middle name, because joyful is one of the best words to describe her. A little over 8 years ago this sweet girl made me a mom, and I am so very thankful to have her in my life.

COVID-19 Day 235 - November 1 - I'm thankful for time with family, vacation, and making lemonade out of 2🍋2🍋

Good morning!  We're back from our vacation to Colorado and it was wonderful!  We had a fabulous time getting away for a bit and spending some time with Glenn and Linda, who we haven't seen in quite a while.  The kids got spoiled with candy from everyone and probably fared better than they would have on a normal Halloween.  I'll make another blog post all about our trip, but for now I want to start my annual November tradition of spending each day being thankful for the blessings in my life.  I write all of this on Facebook as well, but I thought I might copy and paste it here as well and write a bit more in some cases.  Last night after we got in we spent some time unpacking and cleaning the house up before heading to bed, so I didn't write yesterday, but I caught it up early this morning and I think the sentiment still holds, despite being 6 hours late.  ;)  Here's what I put on Facebook...

That time of year again! I know 2020 has been rough, so all the more reason to stop and take time to remember how extremely blessed I am.  

November 1st - I am thankful for time with family, vacation, and making lemonade out of 2🍋2🍋. I know that the number of Halloween celebrations with my kids while they're little are limited and growing fewer very quickly. We didn't even buy costumes this year, because it seemed cruel to get the kids all excited that way, when I knew I wasn't going to allow them to trick-or-treat this year. But God provides small blessings and I am trying to take note of these. So when Glenn and Linda invited us to Colorado for a weekend, it was the perfect distraction for this year when I knew Halloween would look different. Our little mini vacation was so much more than a distraction from Halloween though! It was so much better! Traveling, seeing the beautiful Colorado mountains, hiking, crafting, playing games, cooking, exploring, playing, shopping, eating, talking, relaxing, curiosity, and wonder, our small vacation was filled with so many things. We had an amazing time! So thank you, to my wonderful in-laws for facilitating this special trip, for your company, and for the memories! I am very thankful for you both! Happy November, Friends! ❤ 

COVID-19 Day 228 Pictures Cont.

 Ok, trying from the computer to see how many pictures made it to the cloud.  It's easier to upload from the computer.  Let's see what we got...

Lily at 10 weeks!  I didn't get her new pictures taken for this week on Saturday or Sunday, so her 11 week pictures will have to be 11 weeks and 2 days (assuming I actually do them today...  Now I remember what a pain this was doing even monthly pictures for the kids when they were less than a year old!!)

The only pictures I took from out at the farm last weekend.  Isn't she cute!?

Week 2 of our Halloweeny donuts!  Fun spiders!!

Since the kids can't go on field trips right now, thanks COVID, Connor's teacher and the Kindergarten and First Grade teams brought the field trip to the kids!  They brought a petting zoo to the school and kindergarteners also got a mini pumpkin since they missed out on their annual pumpkin patch field trip.  The teachers are working so hard to make this year special for the kids, despite all the restrictions.

Lily at 9 weeks.  I started getting all artsy-fartsy with my pictures.  Oh well, whatever brings you joy, right??

Connor got invited to a playdate at a friend's house.  4 of these kids are homeschooling this year, 4 of these kids are at Sunflower, spread in 3 different classes.  They had so much fun seeing each other and playing together again!  The sweet Mama even let Avery stay to play with Rachel.  Much fun was had by all!  I have a feeling we'll have a lot more pictures of this handsome group of boys as they continue to grow.  <3

Dinner from a food truck rally!  Safely distanced away from others to enjoy.  This was held in the parking lot of the K-State Extension Center where the Kansas Grown Farmer's Market is held.  The garden there is so cool!  I know they're a great community resource, but I've never utilized them before.  I'm hoping for compost bins for my birthday and to seek out some of their help to make my garden even better next year!!

No pumpkin patch this year.  They're too expensive anyway!  We still found good ones!  And, it you check out my other pictures blog, you can see how they turned out!!

Crazy hair day at school!

Alright, I think that's enough for this blog!  I've run into Avery's birthday now (would be the next pictures if I kept going), so I think that should be a blog in and of itself.  But, like I keep saying, I haven't finished our packing for our trip...  Today was the perfect day and I was a bump on a log...  So I really am going to go work on that now.  If I write again tonight, it won't be until AFTER the packing is DONE.  I mean it this time!!

Have a great night!!